Article in the Mindscape Section of the September 2015 Issue of Stayfit Magazine by Vinesh Sukumaran
If you are expecting to read here about whether you are destined to be in a state of good health and wellbeing, then read no more. The only point that I want to really highlight here is how a belief in fate or the lack of it could impact your wellbeing and perhaps all areas of your life.
Incidents like the nine eleven attacks in the U.S., the Tsunami and earthquakes in Haiti and Nepal are great tragedies of our times and one sometimes wonders about the implications of such a large number of people getting wiped out in one shot. Among them were people who worked out, who didn’t work out, people who smoked, who didn’t smoke, people who were hardcore meat eaters, vegetarian or vegan. This raises some fundamental questions in people’s minds:
- What is the point of trying to live healthy?
- Is there any sense in waking up early, working out or practicing a fitness regime?
- Is there a larger force controlling all of us puppets?
While it’s only natural and healthy to have these thoughts, the problem is when you let them tie you down or cause you to hand over the controls of your life to something like fate that you are not sure of. The real danger is if you start living an unhealthy lifestyle, develop addictions and stop nourishing your body and the earthquake or tsunami doesn’t come.
If fate is removed out of this picture, then the only thing left to do is to take responsibility. Where, YOU hold the controls and accept the fact that the only reason for your poor health or mediocre level of fitness or supreme wellbeing is YOU. There is simply no question about the difficulty of people born with disabilities or into bad circumstances or even into the wrong part of the planet. But by refusing to take control, you are refusing to grow up and grow out of your circumstances. Despite your disabilities and circumstances, you can tap into a state of incredible wellbeing. Especially since we all know that wellbeing is beyond just working out in the gym or going for a run. The quadriplegic Nick Vujicic is a classic example of this and his movie “No arms, No legs, No worries” embodies it.
Another popular phenomenon in the same ball park is for people to take credit for their achievements and blame their shortcomings on fate or something out of their control. If you have a six pack, then you worked for it; if you have a beer belly, then it’s the genetics. The lottery industry is filled with people who rely on luck, chance and fate instead of working towards realizing their dreams. That’s exactly why, for every lottery winner, there are a million losers.
There will always be things that are out of our control as the past has shown and the future is likely to continue showing. Sitting back and saying “it’s fate” hardly helps. Moving ahead and doing something about it does. A belief in fate is best used for things that you actually can’t control, so that you make your peace with it a lot more easily, be it wellbeing or anything else. Fate is not a dartboard to throw arrows at as a result of your own incompetence.